The whole act of making New Year’s Resolutions for the 92% of the population that do is really just a harbinger for failure…
The beginning of each new year offers a certain amount of hope for a fresh start. We want to eat less, exercise more, drink less, volunteer more, spend less, learn more, take less, give more…whatever your resolution, it generally involves deprivation and that’s hard work. It’s human nature to take the easy way out…it’s called survival…
So here we are, coming up to the middle of January and statistically you have already failed. According to a 2014 report from Statistic Brain, nearly 40% of people never make resolutions but of those who do, only 8% actually achieve them.
January 17 is officially “Ditch Your New Year’s Resolutions Day” – the day where you raise an extra glass, smoke another cigarette, relieve yourself from that torturous diet, stop that ridiculous workout regime and binge watch your favourite Netflix show. Feeling guilty now??
WELL DON’T! Ditch those resolutions like a bad habit and re-evaluate your life as a whole. You do not need to wait until the calendar flips over to a new year…find meaningful reasons to make changes in your life…set intentions without guilt of failure.
So, what if just this once, you set a goal instead of a resolution? It doesn’t have to be grandiose; start with something small….and when you reach it, set another…
Setting a goal is an entirely personal experience but to be successful, it is imperative that it is something that motivates you, is important to you and there MUST be value in achieving it. What that looks like for each of us is a very different thing but for me, it looks like this:
- train for and run the Vancouver Marathon in May
- train for and participate in the Half Marathon Stair-a-thon in June
- train for and participate in the Socal Half Marathon Tough Mudder for my 54th birthday in November
- volunteer once a month with YYCHH, an amazing, selfless group who feeds the homeless in Calgary on Saturday nights
So now that you’ve read it on the internet, I am trusting you to keep me accountable…
When setting your own achievable goals, consider these thoughts:
- Don’t go it alone – outside support creates accountability
- Make a pact with yourself to stop obsessing about the past and embrace the present
- Don’t give up too early – use the power of positive reinforcement to keep your momentum going
- Write down your goals and share them with a friend (or two)…or the internet…
- Don’t set yourself up for failure – it is better to succeed at smaller, more manageable goals that to fail at loftier ones
- Make a plan – a goal without a plan is just a wish
- Be honest with yourself – is it something you are truly committed to??
- Reward yourself for your progress – this will give you the energy and stamina you need to continue working toward your original goal
My wish for you is that your coming year is filled with magic and dreams and good madness. I hope you read some fine books and kiss someone who thinks you’re amazing. May the New Year bring you an abundance of unbelievable opportunities, beautiful moments and joyful experiences. May you love with all your heart and find peace in the most turbulent of times. May the love you give ALWAYS find its way back to you multiplied. May you forever be filled with the hope and strength necessary to make your dreams a reality and that somewhere in the next year, you surprise yourself….